Sample Wedding Toast

I would like to make a toast to Karyn and Tom, two incredible people who have become even better and stronger through their relationship with each other.

For those of you who don’t remember, Karyn and Tom's marriage began two years ago with a rather hasty proceeding.  With a baby on the way, they rushed to the courthouse and made it official.  They wanted to be a family, but didn’t have the time to plan a full wedding.  Today we are here because they wanted to have a marriage ceremony, surrounded by their loving family and community. 

The beginning of Karyn and Tom's marriage was less than typical to say the least.  Like most newlyweds, Karyn and Tom didn’t get much sleep that first year.  Unlike most newlyweds, this was due to prior romantic escapades.  The first week of their marriage, Tom spent most nights on the couch.  Tom had discovered one little known side-effect of pregnancy - snoring.  To be more specific - women in their third trimester often sound like Mack trucks when they sleep.  Fortunately, the snoring did eventually stop - when the baby arrived.  Then an extended game of musical beds and sofas began - not the kind of musical beds one thinks of when one thinks of newlyweds. 

A typical night in the Miller home might begin with Karyn and Tom putting Lilly to sleep in their family bed.  The family would sleep blissfully for about thirty-seven minutes.  Then Lilly would wake up screaming for milk. Tom, desperate to get some sleep before work the next day, would move to the quieter couch.  Karyn would nurse Lilly back to sleep, but thirty-seven minutes later, Lilly would wake again.  Karyn would bring Lilly out to the couch so she could nurse.  Tom would return to bed.  When Lilly finally fell back to sleep, Karyn and Lilly would return to bed.  Tom would return to the couch.  Karyn would miss her new husband, so she would join Tom on the tiny couch.  Tiny little Lilly would have the entire king size bed to herself.  The whole thing would repeat about six times until Tom's alarm clock went off and “refreshed and alert,” Tom would go to work.  Any couple who can survive that, as Tom and Karyn did, and decide to go ahead with a full marriage ceremony -- well that’s a couple who is truly in love and deeply committed to each other and to their family.   

Karyn, I’ve seen so much transformation in you over the years.  Before Tom, before Lilly, you were searching for what to do with your life.  You were struggling as a masseuse with carpal tunnel.  You felt dissatisfied in a series of jobs.  You felt stuck in your singing career.  Tom, what an impact your love has had.  Karyn, with the birth of this relationship and the birth of your daughter, you’ve found your path.  With Tom at your side, you’ve struggled and overcome many hurdles to become a better wife, mother, and friend.  As a wife, you have learned how to live with someone in a loving relationship, no matter how difficult the external circumstances.  As a mother, you’ve dedicated yourself heart, body and soul to being the best that you can be and doing the best that you can do for your daughter.  Twenty four-seven doesn’t come close to the commitment you’ve shown.  This is the deepest commitment of time, energy, and love that I’ve ever seen from you.  Karyn, you’ve blossomed. 

Tom, any man who can live with a woman who hasn’t slept more than one or two hours in a row for an entire year – well, you truly are a mensch.  Tom, you’ve taken on the role of husband, father, and provider with such gusto.  A few weeks ago, Tom and I took the kids to the beach.  The joy this man felt playing with his daughter was beautiful.  They chased each other around, splashed in the water and relished the day.  I don’t know who’s smile was broader, Tom's or Lilly's.  Tom, your energy is unbelievable.  I see the love you have for your wife and daughter in everything you do.  From your job, to your time at home, to the active role you’ve played in our parenting classes, even the beautiful photos you take.   Karyn and Tom, you have both been pillars of our community.   You are both wonderful role models for your daughter.

And so, I raise my glass.  I believe I speak for everyone in the room when I say that we are here because we love you, support you and honor you and this marriage.  We’re here because we’re your community and you are ours.   Mazel tov.